Well as a person who is known for completely bottling up my emotions, I have to say this end of the stick is not fun. Usually, I just push mine aside and make a joke and move on thinking that the problem is gone, but it never is. Eventually I erupt, and have a break down, and after the eruption, I realize that I have been deteriorating the entire time unknowingly. All this being said, I think this is still preferable to being an emotional geyser, because when you erupt, you erupt once, and it's a much more person dilemma. With being a geyser you wind up spewing you crap on everyone in sight, and that is just a quick and easy way to not make friends. When I say preferable, I'm using that term loosely because either way, you wind up alone in your pain because pain is one of those things you suffer from alone. No matter how many people you tell, no matter how much they relate, your pain is your pain and you cannot transfer that over to someone else. So here's the breakdown: being bottled up is bad because you are killing yourself slowly while functioning up to a point, and when you break, you are alienating yourself from others mentally, until a complete shut down occurs. You then are forced into digging yourself out of a whole. Being a geyser is also bad because while you are boiling over every chance you get, you feel better at the moment, but you are standing there alone. You can't even properly interact with people because when people aren't watching you blow up, they are trying to avoid any possible triggers. Honestly it's just a case of the lesser of two evils. We should of course strive to find a happy medium: communicate when the problem starts, and pick our battles. Phew, I worked up a sweat.
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