Turn About is Fair Play

I just like the next person want love, that happily ever after. But one has to realize that just because you are desperately in love with someone does not mean that they have to love you. That is the craziest and hardest thing to hear. In my mind, maybe not in everyone else's, but definitely in my mind, if I make the realization that I like someone, I feel that they are obligated to like me back. I feel like it's their duty as the object of my interest to do me due justice and return the feelings, but the reality is that THEY DON'T HAVE TO LIKE ME. I sometimes want so badly to believe that there is some reciprocated feelings between me that I would go through every single piece of contact we ever had, be it physical or mental, near or far, and morph that more into evidence that they surely love me. I do it all the time, and while it makes me feel better, it never amounts to me being heart broken in the end.

It seems that humans live in this delusion that life is supposed to work in the way we want it to work exactly when we think it should, and what's sad is that we really think that there is a problem when things aren't moving in our time. We have to learn that we can only have our feelings and put them out there. And not just this, but realize that the other person is under no obligation to like us back. No matter how much you pray, hope, plead, and want, they don't like you because they don't like you. They are under no oath to give you reason as to why they aren't in total love with you, or why the friendship will never be more to them, or why they can't stand your presence.

I feel like one of the few places where a person is entitled to not like someone is in the matters of the heart. I can choose to like someone with all my heart, and they can dislike me because my nose bothers them, or because they think I'm annoying, or for no reason at all: just that they don't like me. If they don't like you, why should there be a detailed reason as to they aren't feeling your swag. A person can not like you even if you know that you would be perfect together. And that's the worst: seeing that special someone with a person that you know is nowhere as good as you are for them.

And interesting turn about of this situation is when you don't like the person who longs after you. You may not even realize it or you might, but there is probably someone who longs after you, who pines after your sheer existence, and wants so badly for you to say hello or catch a glimpse or just pass by them so that they can bask in your existence. Now this is not a means to blow up yours or my ego, but this is the sad cycle of life. There is some boy or girl out there who sees you walking across campus, and they run to their diaries and write about how sexy you looked in your white tee or how sexy your strut was because you looked like you owned the world, and how they are positive that they saw you look at them when you walked by, and how you swear that their look was lingered and just for you. It's funny, that in these situations of crushes and love, you aren't in alone; we all want that special love in our lives.

But as life goes, you long for someone that you may seriously think you have chance with or someone who you know there is no chance in hell of you having a relationship with because...well because of no particular reason. And while nothing is wrong with this, there is a certain duty we owe to ourselves to recognize this and accept it as part of life. So the next time you are seriously crushing on someone and they turn you down flat, think of all the people who you might have done just that too, and rest assured that you are not alone.